“Busy” is the unequivocal descriptor of contemporary life. If you are busy, you are succeeding at life . . . full stop. Space and time are frontiers to be filled and conquered. At least that is what we are constantly reassuring ourselves and others of.
Virginia Woolf has this great little book entitled “A Room of One’s Own.” She argues that without “A room of one’s own” a woman could not possibly create meaningful fiction. What if we took Virginia’s idea a little less literally? And we said, without space and time, a person can not create meaningful works of art. What if we went one step even further and said that, YOU are that work of art. Then it would necessarily follow that, without “room” for personal growth and reflection, you yourself will feel incomplete.
Do you ever find yourself feeling that you aren’t living up to your full potential, that you are incomplete? If you feel that way then this Rebecca Solnit quote is something you should hold closely to your heart:
“The Self is also a creation, the principal work of your life, the crafting of which makes everyone an artist. This unfinished work of becoming ends only when you do, if then, and the consequences live on” – Rebecca Solnit, The Faraway Nearby
What I find so beautiful about this is the idea that we are “unfinished” and that is something we have to make peace with. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should settle into complacency, that’s not what I mean by making peace. Rather, I see this sense of incompletion – something we all feel – as a call to add to ourselves in a meaningful way every day. This should be an insatiable drive in everyone of us. Being “busy” can distract us from this inner call, and dilute that hunger. Being busy, can drown out this amazing part of what it means to be human.
Don’t be busy, be present.
Make some space and time in your day or week to work on the beautiful masterpiece that you know you can become.
If I could apply one descriptor to Miles and Jason on their wedding day it would be “present.” These are two guys that soaked up every moment of their rustic wedding day, and surrounded themselves with, “an amazing constellation of people” (Miles’s words) who were right there with them. No surprises here, Miles is a Life Coach. His vocation is to help people with “the principle work of [their] life,” the creation of self. I hope you all enjoy the photographs of this beautiful rustic wedding at Scott’s Barn, Cobourg Ontario. And I hope to be present at many more weddings filled with so much love and heart.